“Fighting the Good Fight”(Or How To Navigate Conflict with your Honey in Five (Not So) Easy Steps) One of the most common complaints couples have about their relationship is that their fights don’t go anywhere good. “We have the same fight ninety times and we still can’t resolve the problem.” “We can’t seem to argue […]
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Help for the Disorganized Parent, Married or Divorced
If you hear your co-parent, or your children, complaining about your showing up late, taking the kids to the wrong sports field, forgetting to buy the poster board for the science project, consider this: Your co-parent and children might have a point. Ask yourself if you are disorganized at work, and whether your friends, or […]
Co-Parenting with a Challenging Ex: It’s Just a Barrette
Picture this: Your Ex is a gatekeeper of your time with the children. You are painstakingly trying to eke out more time with your kids through cooperative, non-threatening strategies that stay out of court, but your Ex continues to make it hard for you to have the time you want to spend with your children. […]
My and Kate’s 20/20 Perspective on “Navigating Emotional Currents”
Kevin R. Scudder, a Collaborative Attorney in Seattle, WA, checks in with Kate and me about our book Navigating Emotional Currents in Collaborative Divorce: A Guide to Englighted Team Practice. He thought that it would interesting to see how we view our work a few years after publication, and now that it has become an […]
Help! I Have a New Baby and My 4 Year Old Has . . .
. . . Turned into a Monster! What Should I Do? A client wrote me a letter while she was home on maternity leave, asking for help with her four year old daughter, who was throwing mega- tantrums, whining constantly, hitting her two year old brother, feeling clingy and insecure in unusual ways, and making […]