If you hear your co-parent, or your children, complaining about your showing up late, taking the kids to the wrong sports field, forgetting to buy the poster board for the science project, consider this: Your co-parent and children might have a point. Ask yourself if you are disorganized at work, and whether your friends, or […]
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Co-Parenting with a Challenging Ex: It’s Just a Barrette
Picture this: Your Ex is a gatekeeper of your time with the children. You are painstakingly trying to eke out more time with your kids through cooperative, non-threatening strategies that stay out of court, but your Ex continues to make it hard for you to have the time you want to spend with your children. […]
My and Kate’s 20/20 Perspective on “Navigating Emotional Currents”
Kevin R. Scudder, a Collaborative Attorney in Seattle, WA, checks in with Kate and me about our book Navigating Emotional Currents in Collaborative Divorce: A Guide to Englighted Team Practice. He thought that it would interesting to see how we view our work a few years after publication, and now that it has become an […]
Help! I Have a New Baby and My 4 Year Old Has . . .
. . . Turned into a Monster! What Should I Do? A client wrote me a letter while she was home on maternity leave, asking for help with her four year old daughter, who was throwing mega- tantrums, whining constantly, hitting her two year old brother, feeling clingy and insecure in unusual ways, and making […]
A Generous Endorsement of My Collaborative Trainings with Kate Scharff
This was written by the talented Kevin Scudder of Seattle Washington in response to a Collaborative colleague’s query about whether it would be wise for his local Collaborative practice group to invest in a Lisa Herrick/Kate Scharff advanced training. Dear______, Thanks for the email and questions about Lisa and Kate. I cannot recommend their […]