Most of us remember the story of King Solomon: faced with two mothers, each claiming the same baby to be her own, he says to the mothers that the only compromise is to split the baby in half with his sword. One mother cries out in fear, and tells the other woman to take the […]
What I’m Thinking
A Good Problem to Have: Family Togetherness Post-Divorce
Good divorces have been in the news lately. Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin’s “conscious uncoupling” hit the papers last year, and in September the New York Times featured an article about an already divorced couple taking their kids on a rafting trip – and enjoying the time together. (9/25/15 – From a Divorce a Fractured […]
Fighting the Good Fight
“Fighting the Good Fight”(Or How To Navigate Conflict with your Honey in Five (Not So) Easy Steps) One of the most common complaints couples have about their relationship is that their fights don’t go anywhere good. “We have the same fight ninety times and we still can’t resolve the problem.” “We can’t seem to argue […]
Help for the Disorganized Parent, Married or Divorced
If you hear your co-parent, or your children, complaining about your showing up late, taking the kids to the wrong sports field, forgetting to buy the poster board for the science project, consider this: Your co-parent and children might have a point. Ask yourself if you are disorganized at work, and whether your friends, or […]
Co-Parenting with a Challenging Ex: It’s Just a Barrette
Picture this: Your Ex is a gatekeeper of your time with the children. You are painstakingly trying to eke out more time with your kids through cooperative, non-threatening strategies that stay out of court, but your Ex continues to make it hard for you to have the time you want to spend with your children. […]